Like everyone else, children tend to get angry. But it is at this age that we have to teach children to approach their anger in a proper way. If not, they will cultivate negative attitudes that will cling to them for the rest of their lives and end them up in many not-so-nice situations.
But children do not listen easily as adults. Being angry right back at your kid is also not an option because they will always associate anger as something to be dealt with anger. So, to de-escalate their anger in a constructive way. Try these 8 things when talking to your angry kid. With time, they will learn to control their anger with proper understanding.
#1. It’s Alright To Be Angry.
Most of the kids get angry because they want others to understand them. By saying this, they will feel that you understand their situation.
#2. I Understand That You Are Upset, & That’s Okay.
This will help kids to look up to their tense emotions since their actions are validated by you. They will feel that what they are trying to say is being understood by you.
#3. I Am Right Here For You.
This will give your child reassurance that they have someone with them on their team. They will not block themselves but express themselves to you.
#4. I Sometimes Get Angry Too, Let Your Fighter Shout Out.
The child will now understand that you can relate to their situation. Also, they will feel that they are held high by calling them a ‘fighter’. These things will reassure the child in a non-conflictive way.
#5. We Are Going To Make It.
You will be making the child feel that you are with them, not against them. They will also feel that they are on a path that they will feel better. This makes them listen to you.
#6. I Love You.
You will let them know that they are accepted and loved no matter what. So, they will feel that there is no need to be angry or create a ruccus.
#7. Let’s Go To Our Calm Space.
Have a place where the kid loves in your home. Someplace that soothes them. By saying this they will feel the positive emotions that this place gives them and security in that comfort.
#8. I Know You Are Angry, But It’s Not Okay.
By having a constructive approach to these situations, you should be careful not to promote being angry and lashing around. If the child is behaving in a rather bad way, let them know you understand them, but you should also remind them of the boundaries that they can act within.
These small things will make a child relax and approach their issue in a positive manner. These are the practices and attitudes that they will carry for the rest of their lives.
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